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Haven Editorial: Unreasonable Rage

haven Editorial: Unreasonable Rage

People be people for better or worse. We’re all highly emotional and quite irrational at the best of times. Doing bad choices in the heath of the moment. Which usually lead to some very, very bad outcomes. The kind that ruins peoples lives and most certainly an otherwise fun game. Such as Overwatch, the game that pitches a gun totting team of colorful heroes against an opposing team of equally flashy heroes. Which may or may not have the hand eye coordination to hit a wall at close range, out the ability to control their temper. Causing several game losing tantrums. Throwing out racial slurs, insulting people’s parents, blaming autism and much, much more harsh things. I’m a fairly decent gamer, pale as a sheet and quite tall, that does not stop trolls, angry players and the lot to call me things. Those nasty biting words that makes my blood boil and my hand rise up in righteous fury. Wanting to punch my hand through the web and strangling the crap out of them. As a victim of bullies in the past, I have learned the way that ignoring them is the best solution, unless you are a kid, then punching them works better. After all it is powerplay in the playground. When grown up, the price for a punch is just too steep.

It’s an unfortunate part of the Human condition. In my experience people tend to be too cocky, dangerously competitive and extremely offensive, when there is a price to be claimed.

Unfortunately a lot of us grew up only playing games with other guys. Where both girls and parents thought of it as nothing more than a children’s toy. Which causes a lot of boys to become very biased towards female players, since we’re used to think that girls can’t or won’t do that. At least that’s how I experienced it when growing up. Then again few if any girls I went to school with even touched or talked about games. Which is quite possibly the reason a lot of male gamers think that girls does not have the skills to play as good as then and therefore think gender is a reason to lash out at poor plays. When someone is annoyed or angry they will grab at any insult the can grab. It’s much the same when a bully is picking on someone, they just need an opening.

It is however very unfortunate and very sad that it is such an ingrained response to think that gender and race is a good reason for any sort of insult. In the end we are all humans. Be it butt hurt little foot fungus or not.
Hell, have you ever seen how mad supporters get at the judge on the outer side of the screen? The manager and the ream trainer is just as bad, and they’re standing on the sidelines, screaming their lungs out. Being aggressive, assertive and angry is not a new thing at all, in fact it is as old as mankind itself as far as I can tell.

keep in mind this is a subjective opinion, based on my life experiences. It does not hold true for everyone. Besides I’ve had my butt kicked several times by a skilled girls while playing soccer. It was a fun challenge. That being said I do not support trolls, bullies and people screaming rage filled profanities rarely loath people who needs to blame someone for their mistakes.

In conclusion these people will probably never change, nor do they posses the will to learn, but unfortunately they need someone to take their blame. People need to think before they act. Also remember that all competitive games have a report function and a way to mute someone, or everyone. I also found that pushups or similar training exorcise will alleviate some of the rage felt after  horrible people insults you.

Njål Sand

Nerd Editorial: Bullied Star Wars Fan Gets Support

layla

Most of us were bullied as kids at some point or another, and it’s heartbreaking to know nothing has really changed (in some ways it’s only gotten worse). Social teaches kids to attack anyone different from the crowd and Layla from Virginia was just a recent target. A huge sci-fi geek, Layla would get picked on at school for liking Star Wars and wearing a Guardians of the Galaxy t-shirt.

Luckily, a local chapter of the 501st Legion (a Star Wars fan community dedicated to costuming-they can be found at most promotional events for anything related to the franchise) heard about the situation. They presented her with a storm trooper outfit that other girls around the country had gotten to wear after going through similar bullying for liking various geeky or sci-fi stuff. Katie Goldman was the original recipient who was teased over her Star Wars water bottle. It got to where she begged her mother to buy her a pink one so boys would leave her alone. The next girl, Allison, had been harassed for liking Star Wars and Spiderman.

The important thing to note here it that the girls weren’t necessarily getting harassed because they were into traditionally nerdy things-they were getting bullied because they were girls who were into those things. Their classmates insisted that only boys could like those things. While we know that’s ridiculous (especially in the case of Star Wars, a franchise insanely influential on popular culture and filmmaking), it does raise points about how popular media is often categorized into being only for one gender. There is no real reason for this-anyone should be able to enjoy anything they like, and what always happens is that whatever is designated for women is mocked or seen as lower art. Another prevalent phenomenon surrounding women in geek culture is getting accused of being a “Fake Geek Girl”-where it’s implied these women are only pretending to be interested in something for the attention of men. My favorite time this happened to me was when I was wearing a Captain America shirt and some guy smirked at me and said “You don’t even like comics do you?” Five minutes into a conversation about comics, and he confessed to not knowing who my favorite Avenger was-The Scarlet Witch.

But while this is an annoyingly sexist ongoing issue in the geek community, it’s important to focus on positive things. Part of the community banded together to help one of their own in a time of need. Layla was even able to meet Weird Al at a concert the 501st Legion were participating in and is proud to carry her geeky stuff to school again. Bullying is a hard thing to go through, but it can help to know fellow fans are around to support you.